When it comes to life, we often prefer to live in denial. It’s just another way to escape reality, forget about the things we don’t like about ourselves and the limitations of life for a while, and enter another reality instead.
But that makes us even more miserable.
The best solution is to focus on the good side of life, to accept what can’t be changed, realize the simple truths and live with them. This way we can find happiness right here, right now. And have days filled with peace and contentment from now on.
Here are some of the things we should stop denying:
- You can’t have it all.
We’re born to thrive, but that doesn’t mean you should be the richest, most beautiful, fittest, smartest and popular person of all. It just doesn’t work this way.
If we focus on too many goals, aim too high and always want more, we will never achieve anything, our performance will be poor and satisfaction will never come.
So focus on mastering one skill, reaching the top of one career, and doing one thing at a time.
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There’s not much time.
Time is our most precious resource. It’s limited. And we can’t take it back. We need to understand that and accept it. And instead of always complaining about not having enough time, we can use it more wisely by eliminating any activity that doesn’t make us happy, isn’t productive or doesn’t get us closer to our dreams.
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If you want to know something, ask.
That’s so simple, and yet people rarely do it. It’s when we don’t ask that a relationship starts to become unstable.
Stop wondering what someone thinks of you, just ask him. Or if you’ve been dreaming about promotion at work for a long time, maybe you’re a question away from achieving it. There’s a chance your boss doesn’t realize you’re ready for more responsibilities.
Often in life, all you need to do is ask.
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You already have all it takes to succeed.
Take every opportunity now, and build skills and improve throughout the journey. Every other time will be later.
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If others can do it, so can you.
I’m not saying you should compare yourself to others. I’m just pointing out that it’s the best motivation to see others that have achieved what you want. It means it’s absolutely possible and you can follow their steps if you don’t know where to start.
You can find like-minded people and do it together, or find a mentor and listen to his advice and avoid the mistakes he made.
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Things are already perfect.
If you realize that, you won’t need anything else to be happy.
Things are just the way they should be at this moment. In the next, they will change a bit. But you need to be okay with that and still see the beauty and perfection in the natural flow of events.
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The past doesn’t matter.
Stop living in the past. It brings regrets and disappointment to your present. Instead, learn from what happened, accept it for what it is and let it be. Then slowly and happily go back to this moment and experience it.
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You have to fix your relationship with yourself before you have a stable one with someone else.
If it hasn’t worked out with another person yet, it’s because you’re not in peace with yourself.
Only when you start loving yourself for who you are, accept your faults, start appreciating, listening and respecting yourself, will you feel complete and confident enough to build something beautiful with another human being.
What other simple truths of life do we remain blind for? What else can we do today to become a little happier?